tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4045303808923827751.post2060652069583082529..comments2023-11-02T03:38:57.816-04:00Comments on From the Mom Cave: How to handle unwanted behaviorAmy McMunn http://www.blogger.com/profile/04777029840258598019noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4045303808923827751.post-962794775705755562011-07-29T06:33:06.637-04:002011-07-29T06:33:06.637-04:00It's true, the distinction between the two was...It's true, the distinction between the two was a turning point in parenting for me. <br /><br />You know Beth, you are incredibly insightful! I read your comments on all these blogs and am amazed by your ability to get to the very heart of the matter. Your are one smart gal!!!<br /><br />Thanks for reading and for your word!!Amy McMunn https://www.blogger.com/profile/04777029840258598019noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4045303808923827751.post-47833136185420951002011-07-28T09:34:31.267-04:002011-07-28T09:34:31.267-04:00I know that you've said it before, but I'm...I know that you've said it before, but I'm going to say it again. You are a really good parent. <br /><br />The fact that you believe this: "No, I wasn't about to punish my children for struggling to exist in this world. They needed my help. These were not situations where they were misbehaving" and also this: "Hey, not every action from a special needs child is linked to that disability. He was being a kid, and he was being BAD." speaks volumes.<br /><br />Your kid has unique needs, but he's also a KID, and as such, he needs guidance and sometimes, discipline. But it has to be effective FOR HIM, and it should never be cruel, which is exactly what it would be to treat him as though he doesn't have different needs than the next kid, and force him into situations that the workings of his body don't allow him to process comfortably. <br /><br />I guess as parents, we all struggle to find that balance--to help our kids learn to choose safe behavior and to become people who not only care for themselves, but also to consider how their actions impact others and the world around them--yet when you have kids who have extraordinary needs, finding that balance requires even more thought and care. You never seem to lose sight of that, even through the stress and the sleeplessness and the uninvited (and I'm guessing, unwelcome) advice that comes your way. <br /><br />You really do rock.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com